please read.i know its long.but grr.im lost.? i wasnt planning on sharing anything. I was just going to deal with it myself but hey you guys might be able to help me. i just want some feedback. what do you think.
ok. so there is this dude i have known since elementary school. i had a little crush on him…and then i moved away.
far away. and i let 3 years pass by. no talk.
so i found him on myspace not too long ago maybe a few months ago and was like heyy…dont know if you remember me blah blah.
so then he messages me back saying of course i remember you and all this stuff.like your my best buddy. which threw me off a bit. but whatever.
so then we starting talking more added him to msn and we were talking about just rndom stuff and he tells me he just broke up with his gf. so we just are friends for about a month.
I start liking him but i dont tell him. then one day he texts me and is like omg. guess what. "bob" asked me out. we are dating i love her so much.
so i was a little ticked but was like hey what am i gunna do about it. so i just gave him support and stuff and was a friend.
well then i realized that him and her have a TON of issues. they fight over the stupidest stuff. and i turned into his therapist/counsler type thing. and i sure as heck didnt enjoy talking about her because i liked him but he diidnt know that. and so i just had to encourage him which was hard because i didnt want them to stay together. so a few months of this crap goes on. and somewhere in there i tell him i like him and omg he likes me too.
you guys may think this is so stupid. but i truly do like him and i feel like he likes me too.
and soo now he loves his gf and really really likes me.
and he feels like he needs me. and he tells me i feel more like a gf because i really am there for him more than his gf. shes pathetic.
so idk whats going to happen. hes so blind. hes speaking but i dont think hes listening. im trying to deal with this on my own and wait for them to break up but every time they fight i get all excited and like omg they are going to break up but nope. they get all kissy kissy the next day :[ i dont know i really want to wait. but what if all this is just wasted time. like there never going to break up :[
any thoughts?
Sexy Blue Eyes
May 12th, 2010 at 11:11 PM
Find another guy you are into and start hanging out with him and the guy you have been after will see that he has a chance to lose you to someone else and maybe he will open his eyes and pay more attention to you. References :
Robert D
May 12th, 2010 at 11:13 PM
Thats cute if ya closer now and your seeing each other see one day when hes angry at her n tell him how u feel talk with him and see if he wants to dump her for u thats kinda wrong but they sound like theres no reason for they can go out….But U will never know untill u try Good Luck
Girl….i went through something like that, i think almost every girl goes through something like that, my sister told me, ( she’s been in this situation 7 is 17) first of all, ask yourself questions: Do you really think he’s the 1? Has he every been mean, or cruel about anything to you? If he CAN’T SEE you in that way, do you still think he likes you?
Next think. Think about all the things you look for in a guy( al least find 10) if he has 7 out of the 10, then you got a chance.
Then, talk. Your doing a great job asking people us about our opinions, thats awsome, when i was going through my situation, the only person i talked to was me, & my sister. It work out alittle bit, but when i started talking to other people, it worked out a lot. I know you said you were just gonna work it out on your own, & thats fine, but I thinks it’s best when you talk 2 others.
Last tell.Tell him what you think. Not about you & him, but about the sistuation, ask him if he actually likes her.
ask him if he likes being in this situation, stuff like that.
So lets say, he breaks up with his gf, but still likes her, i would feel bad but i’m not you. i would think, if he did all that stuff you said, i wouldn’t think he’s worth it, but again, im not you. If he breaks up with his gf, before you do all this, just do step 1 & 2. then not to rush ask himwhat he thinks about you guys, try not to make it wierd, just come out cool, & clean, just remember not 2 rush
Okay, now lets say you do alllll this stuff, & he loves being in this situation, & he loves his gf. Hun, i can’t do anything about that. You have to ask yourself, if you really trully like like him, would you want him to be happy, with his freaky gf, or sad, that he’s not with her? this is something noooooo 1 can help you with, just think about it first. References :
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